Back when my wife and I were engaged, I found myself wrestling with a wave of moral questions and scruples. I deeply desired for our future marriage to be both passionate and faithful to the Church’s teaching—but I often wasn’t sure where the line was when it came to expressing intimacy in a chaste and holy way.
Despite years of interest and formal study of theology, I was shocked to find how hard it was to actually find clear, precise, and reliable answers to these questions not only from average clergy but even in contemporary theological literature which, since the Second Vatican Council, had been drifting further and further away from analyzing these questions with too much precision for fear of coming off as legalistic. While well-intentioned, the resulting lack of precise moral guidance can be pastorally ruinous—especially for those discerning marriage. Scrupulous individuals are particularly vulnerable to online influencers who promote the most rigorous or extreme moral positions, often with little regard for the actual consensus of traditional Catholic moralists and confessors who have carefully addressed these questions over the past century.
I have spent years closely studying this moral tradition so that I can make sure my marriage is pleasing before the Lord and can say to Him with a clear conscience that I can now “walk at liberty, for I have sought after Thy commandments” (Psalm 119: 45). I have greatly benefited from this study. Because of this fruitful experience, I want to help others educate their conscience so that they can safely navigate these waters without having to devote hours upon hours of their spare time and effort delving into the weeds of moral theology. This is why I joined up with Catholic Intimacy where I offer personalized, one-on-one sessions specifically designed to help you better understand the Church’s moral teachings on marital intimacy.
Whether you’re seeking moral clarity about particular acts, not sure about whether something is a sin, confused by varying opinions out there online, or simply want counsel on how to better walk with God in our marriage, these sessions are here to support you. Rooted deeply in the principles of Catholic moral theology and in the consensus of esteemed orthodox moralists, these sessions provide a safe and confidential space where you can bring your questions—no matter how complex or sensitive—and receive honest, theologically sound, and pastorally attentive guidance.
Every session is discreet, personalized, and aimed ultimately at equipping you with the resources you need to form your conscience together as a Catholic married couple. Let us walk with you as you seek to live your vocation more joyfully and faithfully. There are answers. There is peace. And we’re here to help you find both.
