Sacred Adventure: Sex in Private Exotic Locations

Jun 30 / James Walther, MA, ABS
Married love is meant to be both reverent and exhilarating. While daily life tends to settle into rhythms of routine, intimacy thrives on moments of surprise, play, and renewed presence. Sometimes, stepping out of the ordinary can reawaken desire and deepen your connection—not by chasing thrills, but by choosing beauty, privacy, and intention.

If you’ve ever found yourself craving something more than the bedroom walls you’ve always known, this article is for you.

Why Location Matters

We’re incarnate beings. Our senses—what we see, smell, hear, and feel—impact how we experience love and intimacy. God gave us a world full of beauty, and there’s something profoundly bonding about experiencing that beauty together. A change in location can refresh more than just your schedule—it can reignite your desire and remind you of the gift you are to one another.

Discretion, Not Exhibition

First, let’s be clear: Catholic teaching upholds modesty, chastity, and respect for the dignity of the sexual act. This means public acts or voyeuristic thrills are not appropriate. However, there’s nothing wrong with a married couple enjoying intimacy in a private outdoor shower, a screened-in balcony under the stars, or a secluded cove where they know they will not be seen or disturbed. This is about deepening intimacy within the moral boundaries of the Faith.

Creative Settings for Private Intimacy

These aren’t public stunts—they’re invitations to explore the gift of your spouse in a new environment, far from the pressures of home:
  • On a boat in a secluded cove – Let the gentle rocking of the water create a rhythm of rest and connection.
  • A private pool – Dip into warmth and weightlessness before drawing close under the stars.
  • The bed of a pickup truck – Toss in a mattress or blanket and park beneath the open sky for a rugged, romantic escape.
  • In the middle of a quiet field – Surrounded by tall grass and silence, there’s nothing to do but be present to each other.
  • The hayloft of a barn – Rustic and hidden away, this can be both playful and deeply grounding.
  • A secluded adults-only rental cabin – With no kids, no interruptions, and no agenda, you can slow down and savor one another.
  • On a private beach – Let the waves set the backdrop while you enjoy the feeling of the sun, wind, and sand together in sacred solitude.

Tips for a Thoughtful Experience

  1. Prioritize Privacy
    Make sure the location is genuinely private—not just “probably fine.” You should both feel secure, safe, and free from interruption or anxiety.
  2. Keep Things Simple
    You don’t need anything elaborate. Let the space do the work. A soft blanket, a bit of shade, or warm towels can be enough to make the moment comfortable.
  3. Honor the Experience
    Invite God into your joy. This doesn’t mean making it overly serious—it means approaching the act with gratitude and delight, knowing it’s an echo of divine love.
  4. Embrace All Five Senses
    Let the texture of grass, the warmth of sunshine, or the scent of pine heighten your awareness. Physical union isn’t just about the act—it’s about being here, together.

Want to Go Deeper?

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Final Thoughts

He made the ocean. He made the wildflowers. He made the stars. And He made you—for one another.

Sometimes all it takes is a little holy adventure to remember how good that is.