Vacations are often framed as a time to rest, explore, and escape the demands of daily life. But for married couples, they can also be a beautiful opportunity to reconnect—not just emotionally and spiritually, but physically. Far from being indulgent or frivolous, sex on vacation can be a way to renew your connection, celebrate your marriage, and enjoy one another as God intended.
When we step away from the daily grind—work, chores, schedules—it opens space in our hearts and minds. We remember how to play again. We breathe a little deeper. And often, our desire for closeness returns. In the quiet or the adventure of a shared trip, many couples find they are more open, more affectionate, and more relaxed. All of that is fertile ground for intimacy.
Vacation doesn’t just refresh the body—it can refresh the relationship. Sex in this context isn’t about escaping reality but about remembering what’s most real: your love, your commitment, your shared life.
Of course, travel also brings its own difficulties. You may be exhausted from the journey. One of you may be more interested in rest than romance. Or you might have young children sharing your hotel room.
There can also be emotional or spiritual hesitation. Maybe one spouse worries that “vacation sex” is just about novelty. Or perhaps you’re navigating natural family planning, and the timing isn’t ideal. These are real and valid concerns—but they don’t have to be obstacles.
If you’re hoping for renewed intimacy on vacation, a little intentionality can go a long way.
- Plan for intimacy the way you plan for rest and meals. It doesn’t need to be rigid, but if sex matters to you, make space for it.
- Talk before the trip about your hopes and expectations. Is this time about reconnecting emotionally? Trying something new? Simply resting together?
- Invite God into it. Ask Him to bless your time away—not just your safety and plans, but your physical union. God delights in your joy as a married couple.
- Stay flexible. If plans change or things don’t unfold the way you imagined, be gentle with each other. Try again tomorrow. The goal is connection, not perfection.
- Book lodging that offers privacy—even if it means budgeting differently.
- Build in time for naps or downtime. Fatigue is the enemy of desire.
- Bring small things that make intimacy easier—massage oil, comfortable clothes, music, even a candle or two.
- If you have kids with you, think creatively: trade babysitting with friends, use naptime well, or find a sitter through a trusted service.
Sex on vacation doesn’t need to feel different—it needs to feel real. You don’t have to manufacture passion or perform. Simply be present with your spouse. Share laughter, share quiet, share your bodies. Let this time away be a time of grace—a small reminder that married love is worth tending, worth enjoying, and worth renewing.
