Catholic Sex Coaching
When was the last time you and your spouse had great sex?
When was the last time you and your spouse were both able to climax?
When was the last time you felt deeply connected to your spouse?
If your answer to any of the above questions is something like “Never,” “It's been so long I can't remember,” or “That was months/years ago,” and you are ready to change that, then sex coaching may be right for you.
It's time to stop settling for mediocre or bad sex.
It's time to stop going through the motions of being married.
It's time to get on with your happily ever after.
Testimonials
Whitney D.
“We went from just coexisting to meeting each other again, and now we're living with a renewed sense of purpose. I used to see sex as an obligation that I had to fulfill, but now it's something that I look forward to and enjoy a lot - just like when we were newly married and without children lol.”
Young Catholic Wife and Mother
“James is an understanding, non judgmental, and motivating coach in every way. He offers many ideas to find solutions and helps you work through whatever you want to accomplish.”
Lukas and Jessica
“My wife and I tried so hard timing a child that sex became a chore. When we were successful, her body changed, and the act became uncomfortable. We heard that sex was good while pregnant for the body and relationship and we needed advice. Many of the online resources were in opposition to our faith and we are so glad we found Catholic Intimacy. We immediately related to James as he was of our faith, a former teacher, and soon to have children himself. Building a sexual vocabulary with him has helped my wife and I into different positions to enjoy sex again through pregnancy and into postpartum. We are so glad we did the block package because we realized that sex can be a reflection of how our relationship is and he has continued to help us grow closer together outside of the bedroom.”
My Credentials
James Walther, MA, ABS
Catholic Sex Coach
About Me
As a professional Catholic Sex Coach, I am passionate about guiding people to deeper intimacy in their marriages. With a foundation rooted in my education in Catholic theology, further studies in marriage and family therapy, and sexology certification, I bring a unique perspective to the realm of sex coaching. My approach is holistic, addressing all facets of intimacy—physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual—recognizing their interconnectedness in fostering fulfilling relationships. Whether clients are grappling with physical intimacy issues stemming from a lack of emotional intimacy or those rooted in physical or mental health conditions, I provide personalized guidance and support to help them navigate their journey towards deeper intimacy within the framework of Catholic moral teachings.
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BA - Double Major in Philosophy and Theology (Magna Cum Laude) from Holy Apostles College and Seminary
MA - Theology, Dogmatic Theology (Summa Cum Laude) from Holy Apostles College and Seminary
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Certified Catholic Life Coach from Catholic Coach Training
Member of Catholic Life Coaches (profile)
Graduate Certificate in Counseling, Systemic Couple and Family Therapy from Capella University
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Certified Sexologist from the American Board of Sexology (verify)
Currently studying sex therapy at the Sexual Health Alliance
The Essential Parts of Marital Intimacy
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An interpersonal state of closeness based on complementary spiritual beliefs, values, and practices.
Beliefs - Shared profession of faith
Values - Shared understanding of morality/ right and wrong
Practices - Shared/compatible worship, prayers, rites, and devotions
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An interpersonal state of closeness based on complementary goals, interests, and intelligence.
Goals - Shared/compatible long and short-term goals, both for self and family
Interests - Shared/compatible interests, hobbies, and projects
Intelligence - Comparable intelligence, such that each spouse mentally stimulates the other.
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An interpersonal state of closeness based on trust, communication, empathy, and vulnerability.
Trust - True intimacy is only possible with deep trust.
Communication - Freely sharing thoughts and feelings and attentive reception.
Empathy - Bearing each other’s sufferings personally with compassion and tenderness.
Vulnerability - Laying bear your wounds and insecurities to your spouse.
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An interpersonal state of closeness based on mutual attraction, affection, and sexual connection.
Mutual attraction - A spouse who is repulsed by their spouse will not have deep physical intimacy with them.
Affection - this mutual attraction and love expresses itself in frequent sexual and non-sexual touches, kisses, looks, words, etc.
Sexual connection - Both spouses feel that their needs are met and that sex draws them closer together.
Will You Work With Us?
While most of my clients Catholic married couples, you do not have to be Catholic or even married to meet with me. I will help any adult to grow in their relationships.
I will work with one spouse alone, if the other is not ready for coaching.
I can work with spouses individually.
I also offer pre-marriage and pre-courtship coaching.
I have experience coaching everyone from people still discerning marriage to couples in their seventies.
Do We Really Need This?
That’s a great question! The difference between a want and a need often comes down to whether you're willing to accept the status quo. You might not need coaching in the sense that your marriage is on the brink—but ask yourself, are you truly satisfied with where things are now? Small struggles in intimacy don’t stay small. Over time, misunderstandings grow, distance widens, sexual frustration festers, and what could have been a source of joy turns into a source of frustration.
The real question is: Are you okay living the rest of your marriage exactly as it is today?
If the answer is no, then why wait? Investing in your intimacy now means investing in a stronger, more connected, and more fulfilling future together. Coaching isn’t about fixing what’s broken—it’s about making the good even better and ensuring your marriage thrives in every way.
How Does It Work?
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For a detailed look at what Catholic sex coaching is and isn’t, please see this page.
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Go to The Catholic Sex Coaching Process page
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Self-pay only (no insurance accepted)
3 and 6 month packages
One-time or monthly payment options
Senior’s discount
Public servant discount (military, police, fire, EMS, teachers, and their spouses)
Sliding scale for financial need
To see what discounts and scale you qualify for, please schedule a free consultation session.
What’s the Right Coaching Track for Me?
There are a lot of factors that will determine which is the right form of coaching for you. So, I’ve listed some of them below.
Intimacy Support Groups
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Not urgent: marriage is generally health, but there is room for improvement
Typically, couples who are in crisis/high risk will not be a good fit for group coaching. They will be better served by the focused, tailored services of individual/couples coaching.
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Group coaching is $29 for one spouse or $49 for a couple per month.
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You only pay for one month at a time. You are free to cancel your subscription whenever you are ready.
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Group sessions generally follow the same structure each week and the topics are planned in a specific sequence months in advance.
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Once you set up your subscription, you will be added to the group and be able to join in the online and offline conversations almost immediately.
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Fixed:
Women’s Group: Tuesdays at 8 p.m. Central time
Men’s Group: Thursdays at 8 p.m. Central time
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Groups participation is currently uncapped.
Individual/Couples Coaching
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All levels of urgency can benefit from individual/couples coaching.
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Intake session (90 minutes): $300
60 minute session base rate: $200
Discounts:
seniors
public servants (police, fire, EMS, military).
financial hardship
Coaching packages:
9 sessions: 10% discount
18 sessions: 20% discount
An additional 10% discount is applied to packages prepaid-in-full.
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Individual/couples packages require either full payment in advance or a payment plan.
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Individual/couples sessions are very flexible in their structure and content. The topics covered will change with the dynamics of the conversation and the needs/wants of the couple.
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Once you sign up for the consultation session, you will need to complete the full list of intake forms before meeting with the coach. If the coach decides to take you as a client, you will need to sign the coaching agreement and make a payment before you can begin to schedule your sessions.
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Flexible
Availability between 6-10 p.m. Central time, Tuesday through Friday (as of Feb 2025)
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I have a maximum of 14 individual/couples coaching slots available per week. These may be filled weeks or even months in advance.