Strengthening Catholic Marriages: Why Catholic Intimacy Should Be Part of Your Ministry
James Walther, MA, ABS James Walther, MA, ABS

Strengthening Catholic Marriages: Why Catholic Intimacy Should Be Part of Your Ministry

In our modern world, couples are facing incredible challenges when it comes to building and maintaining strong, faith-filled marriages. As Catholic clergy—bishops, priests, and deacons—you are often the first point of contact for couples who are seeking guidance in their relationships. Your mission to help them cultivate healthy, holy marriages is crucial. Yet, let’s be honest—addressing certain sensitive topics, especially around intimacy and marital love, can sometimes be daunting or difficult to navigate. As a former seminarian, I understand the limited focus of clerical moral theology formation to be in preparation for the confessional, not to explain to couples how to address morally common issues such as vaginismus, low-libido, erectile dysfunction, or premature ejaculation.

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Stress-Free Saint Valentine’s Day: Rekindling Marital Intimacy Without the Pressure
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

Stress-Free Saint Valentine’s Day: Rekindling Marital Intimacy Without the Pressure

Valentine’s Day often conjures images of red roses, heart-shaped chocolates, and candlelit dinners. But beneath the surface of this hyper-commercialized celebration lies the story of Saint Valentine, a martyr whose life was marked by sacrifice and love. As modern society pushes us to equate love with extravagant gifts and grand gestures, many couples find themselves burdened by unrealistic expectations that can strain rather than strengthen their marriages.

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Understanding and Addressing Erectile Dysfunction
For Husbands James Walther, MA, ABS For Husbands James Walther, MA, ABS

Understanding and Addressing Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction (ED) refers to the consistent inability to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for sexual activity. While occasional difficulty is normal and often tied to stress or fatigue, persistent issues may signal underlying physical, emotional, or relational concerns. For married couples, ED can affect not only physical intimacy but also emotional closeness and the overall harmony of the marital relationship. Recognizing and addressing ED in a compassionate, faith-centered way is key to restoring intimacy and strengthening the unity between spouses.

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The Harmful Relational Effects of Withholding Sex in Marriage
For Couples, For Wives James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples, For Wives James Walther, MA, ABS

The Harmful Relational Effects of Withholding Sex in Marriage

In coaching, it’s not uncommon to hear a spouse (often the wife) say, “I won’t be intimate until we emotionally connect,” or “I don’t feel close enough for sex.” While emotional connection is crucial in marriage, using sex as leverage can be profoundly damaging. This article explores the positive role of marital intimacy, the risks of withholding it, and how couples can break harmful patterns to restore their relationship within Catholic values.

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Two Weeks to Valentine’s Day: Make it Meaningful for Your Marriage
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

Two Weeks to Valentine’s Day: Make it Meaningful for Your Marriage

As Valentine’s Day approaches, it’s the perfect time to focus on nurturing the sacred bond of love and intimacy in your marriage. This celebration of love is an opportunity to reflect on the beauty of your union, deepen your connection, and honor God in your relationship. At Catholic Intimacy, we’re here to help you make this Valentine’s Day meaningful, romantic, and spiritually fulfilling.

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Understanding Kinks, Fetishes, and Paraphilic Disorders: A Guide for Catholic Married Couples
James Walther, MA, ABS James Walther, MA, ABS

Understanding Kinks, Fetishes, and Paraphilic Disorders: A Guide for Catholic Married Couples

Catholic married couples are called to embrace intimacy as a sacred bond that deepens their union and reflects God’s life-giving love. Within this beautiful and unique space, questions about expressions of sexuality often arise. Exploring topics like kink, fetish, and paraphilic disorder through a Catholic lens can help couples understand their place within God’s design for marital intimacy. In this post, we’ll define these terms, provide examples, and consider how they align (or don’t align) with Catholic teaching.

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Navigating Current Trends in Male Fertility: Protect Your Health, Secure Your Legacy
For Husbands Dr. Amanda Ramirez, DPT For Husbands Dr. Amanda Ramirez, DPT

Navigating Current Trends in Male Fertility: Protect Your Health, Secure Your Legacy

Guest Post by Dr. Amanda Ramirez, DPT

Catholic Doctor of Physical Therapy

Any man grounded in his masculinity and committed to creating a meaningful legacy benefits from a well-rounded perspective on his fertility—one that highlights a continuum of choices, encourages informed decision-making, and prioritizes natural, minimally invasive methods first. This approach to reproductive health embodies the core principles of Restorative Reproductive Medicine.

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What Catholic Sex Coaching Is and Isn't
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

What Catholic Sex Coaching Is and Isn't

Catholic sex coaching is a specialized ministry that helps married couples enhance their intimacy while respecting the sanctity of marriage. Unlike secular sex coaching, this approach integrates spiritual, emotional, and physical dimensions within the framework of the Church’s teachings.

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Screaming at Trees Counseling
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

Screaming at Trees Counseling

Now one tool that Megan likes is having her clients scream at trees. Yes, you read that right. They are supposed to roll down their windows on a back country road and scream at the trees. Of course, there is more to it than just that, but you would have to talk to her about the details of the exercise. This may sound a bit far-fetched, but for trauma clients, it can be incredibly cathartic and a useful exercise in learning when and how to express their emotions. So, she has named her practice Screaming At Trees Counseling (SATCo).

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Understanding and Overcoming Premature Ejaculation
For Husbands James Walther, MA, ABS For Husbands James Walther, MA, ABS

Understanding and Overcoming Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation (PE) is a sensitive but common issue that affects many marriages. For Catholic couples, addressing this challenge within the framework of faith can deepen intimacy and strengthen their spiritual connection. By combining medical knowledge with faith-based resources, couples can overcome PE in ways that honor their relationship and align with Catholic teachings.

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Transform Your Life with Exodus 90: Join Our 2025 Journey!
For Husbands James Walther, MA, ABS For Husbands James Walther, MA, ABS

Transform Your Life with Exodus 90: Join Our 2025 Journey!

Are you ready to embrace a challenge that will transform your life? Exodus 90 is a 90-day spiritual exercise designed to help men grow closer to God, cultivate discipline, and foster meaningful connections with others. Rooted in Catholic tradition, this powerful journey begins January 20 and concludes on Easter Sunday, April 20. This year, I’m inviting 10 men to join me in this transformative experience through a supportive group hosted via Zoom.

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Catholic Intimacy’s 2024 Year-in-Review
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

Catholic Intimacy’s 2024 Year-in-Review

As we close the chapter on 2024, we are filled with gratitude for the growth, challenges, and countless blessings this year has brought. Catholic Intimacy continues to be a space for married couples to grow closer to each other and God, building healthy, holy, and intimate relationships rooted in faith. This year has been one of expansion, resilience, and exciting steps forward.

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Porn and How to Overcome It
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

Porn and How to Overcome It

Pornography has become a pervasive issue in today’s society, affecting both men and women across all walks of life. While many may view pornography as harmless or even normal, its impact on marriage and intimacy can be deeply damaging. From the perspective of Catholic teaching, pornography undermines the dignity of the human person and distorts God’s plan for sexuality. As the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) states, “Pornography… offends against chastity because it perverts the conjugal act, the intimate giving of spouses to each other” (CCC 2354). For married couples, addressing this issue is critical for preserving trust, intimacy, and the sacramental bond.

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Merry Christmas
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

Merry Christmas

Christmas is a season of love, hope, and unity in the joy of Our Savior and His Holy Family. A world overwhelmed with hustle and bustle can, at this solemn season, be an opportunity to turn our lives around: to slow down, open up our hearts, and imitate Our Lord’s love.

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Intimacy During the Christmas Season
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

Intimacy During the Christmas Season

The Christmas season is a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration, but it can also bring stress, packed schedules, and exhaustion. Between shopping, hosting, and navigating extended family dynamics, it’s easy for marital intimacy to take a back seat. However, with intention and grace, this season can become an opportunity to strengthen the bond with your spouse, fostering a deeper connection that carries you into the new year.

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Women’s Group Coaching
For Wives James Walther, MA, ABS For Wives James Walther, MA, ABS

Women’s Group Coaching

I’m excited to announce that we’re moving forward with a small, supportive group for Catholic women seeking to deepen their experience of intimacy within marriage. This six-session program will provide a safe, faith-centered space to explore and address common challenges, including pain during intimacy, emotional disconnection, NFP-related concerns, pregnancy, low libido, difficulty achieving orgasm, and more.

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The Marital Debt & Marital Rape
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

The Marital Debt & Marital Rape

Responses to Katie and SadTrad

“Does Pope Saint John Paul II have anything to say on the topic of martial debt?” - Katie

“Lots of people today deny the existence of the marital debt, thinking that they’re protecting women, but this is only putting them in greater danger…The older I get the more convinced I become that besides Jesus, all men are sociopaths.” - SadTrad

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Erotic Lactation: Sexy or Strange?
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

Erotic Lactation: Sexy or Strange?

“My question is on the theme of breastfeeding (i.e., a husband orally drawing breast milk from his wife's breasts). I have seen the act called "adult breastfeeding" and even "erotic lactation" on secular sites.”

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