Heightening Your Senses: Introducing Blindfolds to the Bedroom

Introduction

Have you ever noticed how when you cannot see all of your other senses seem heightened? Our brains can only process so much input, so they are forced to selectively prioritize sensations. By removing input from one sense, we allow others to take center stage. Think about enjoying the first sip of a fine wine or first bite of exquisite chocolate. We often instinctively close our eyes and focus our attention on our sense of taste.

If you're ready to become more daring in the bedroom and add some novelty we've got some tips on how to use a blindfold to do just that. Read on to learn about incorporating this simple accessory into your routine.

Best Practices for Introducing a Blindfold to Your Spouse

  • Talk about it before trying it. Make sure that you feel safe talking about it as a couple and make sure that both of you are on board.

  • Take baby steps. Start off slowly by covering your spouse's eyes with something soft, such as a silk scarf or sleep mask, just to get used to the idea of being blindfolded.

  • Communicate often. Make sure you build up trust by continuing to tell each other how you’re feeling throughout the experience—and make sure your spouse feels safe and comfortable at all times.

  • Get creative. Try different kinds of blindfolds and different sensations, like feather tickling or massage oil, as you explore new levels of intimacy together.

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Tips on Building Intimacy With a Blindfold

  1. Start Outside the Bedroom – One of the best ways to build anticipation is to start outside the bedroom. Take turns exploring each other's body while blindfolded, but in a place where you wouldn't typically do so.

  2. Use Words – Using words to set the mood and give instructions can really help increase excitement and arousal. For example, when gently touching or kissing your spouse, use directions like “light” and “slow” as well as compliments that will make them feel good about themselves like “you feel so good” or “you taste so sweet.”

  3. Get Creative With Accessories — Experimenting with different fabrics and textures can also add unexpected sensations that you may never have thought about before. Some lingerie could do wonders combined with massage oil or lotion to really put some extra spark into your experience!

Ideas for Creative Ways to Spice Up the Night With a Blindfold

Here are some ideas to get you started, but please don’t stop here. If you have any ideas or suggestions, be sure to share them with us!

Blindfold One Spouse

One of you can don the blindfold while the other teases and pleases. This gives the spouse without the blindfold control of the situation and allows them to surprise the other with all kinds of new sensations.

Blindfold Both Spouses and Play Sexy Marco Polo

This works best in a large space, like a living room or bedroom, clear of things to stub your toes on. You could start by putting on your blindfolds in separate rooms and then finding each other, undressing each other, and doing all sorts of intimate things with each other without seeing each other. Talk about making a night to remember!

Conclusion

Intimacy should be cultivated and enjoyed in your marriage, and a blindfold is just one of many tools for taking it to the next level. A blindfold can heighten sensation while providing a sense of surrender that can make the experience even more profound. With a blindfold, you can offer complete trust in your spouse as you explore together. So, why not spice up your marriage with a blindfold and take your intimacy to new heights. It just might be an experience you won’t forget!

James Walther, MA, ABS

James is a professional Catholic intimacy (relationship & sex) coach and theologian. He holds three degrees in theology from Holy Apostles College and Seminary and has done graduate studies in marriage and family therapy at Capella University. He is an EMT and ABS certified sexologist. His research interests include Catholic sexual ethics, the female orgasm, trauma, and the sacramentality of the minor orders. He is the translator of Yves Chiron’s Paul VI: The Divided Pope. He also serves in the Army National Guard.

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