Best Basic Sex Positions
Techniques 101 - Part 1
One of the most common areas that I address with new sex coaching clients is positions. Not all positions work for all clients. For example, I have had a client with partial paralysis who could only use one position, so in their case I just taught them how to use it more effectively. But most of my clients benefit from having 2-4 go-to positions.
When it comes to positions, my favorite resource to teaching clients is ChristianFriendlySexPositions.com. The owners have graciously allowed me to use their images for my instructional purposes. The great thing about their site is that they use stick figures to illustrate different positions and they now have over 300 positions. They also have fun things like their Position of the Week Newsletter. Go check them out!
But 300 positions can be a bit daunting. So let’s break it down. For starters, there are three basic types of positions: man-on-top, woman-on-top, and man-from-behind positions. We can expand on these to add: kneeling, seated, side-by-side, spooning, and standing positions.
Most couples are familiar with three: missionary, doggy, and cowgirl, but things could be better. So here are the alternatives I have found to be the most effective in making things more enjoyable for both.
Alternate Positions
Originals are on the left and alternates on the right on desktop view.
Alternatives follow the originals on mobile view.
Images are linked to the original CFSP articles with full descriptions and tips for use.
Missionary
This is one of the basic and universally used positions, but it can be difficult for the husband to maintain a steady rythm.
Indrani
By moving his knees up, the husband will have greater control for thrusting. Bonus: add a pillow under the wife’s pelvis to improve the angle of entry for g-spot stimulation.
Butterfly
This can be a good alternative to missionary for pregnant women.
Doggy
This is another classic. For novice husbands, this is a great position to practice finding and maintaining an enjoyable rhythm, especially when using a love strap. For pregnant wives, this position may be much more comfortable than missionary.
Turtle
The wife can improve g-spot stimulation by dropping her breasts to the bed which changes the angle of entry.
Beep Beep
This is another great alternative to doggy, which can allow for especially powerful thrusting.
Cowgirl
Many couples find woman-on-top positions to be a fun mix-up. This allows the wife to take the lead and her husband to lay back and enjoy. Some pregnant women also find this to be a position that they can handle.
Locked Cowgirl
By changing the husband’s leg position, he can help increase the penetration depth and angle.
Bonus Standing Position
Take Me Now
Have you ever had one of those we-NEED-each-other-now moments? Then this may be just the right novelty position for the occasion.
