Masturbation in Marriage
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

Masturbation in Marriage

Masturbation is per se (i.e., in and of itself) gravely sinful. This means that it is always sinful, including in marriage. Since we started Catholic Intimacy, many people have contacted me to ask whether one or another act was masturbatory or if masturbation would be allowed in x, y, or z situations. So, hopefully, if you are here with a question like that, this article will clarify things.

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The Marital Act, Cardinal Rule, and Pleasure Principles
For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS For Couples James Walther, MA, ABS

The Marital Act, Cardinal Rule, and Pleasure Principles

“In necessary things unity, in doubtful matters freedom, in all things charity.” Augustine

As Humanae Vitae teaches, “it is necessary that each and every marriage act remain ordered per se to the procreation of human life.” Following the example of Dr. Popcak, I have referred to this as the One Rule. Now, however, I prefer to refer to this as the “Cardinal Rule”. I have this preference because a cardinal rule is a rule upon which others depend, not to the exclusion of other rules. Calling the rule that every marital act must be open to procreation the “One Rule” gives the unfortunate impression that there are no other rules.

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