Hard Truths for Men About Women's Experience of Sex
All the men who have come to men for coaching have done so for the same reason: there is something wrong with their sex life. Almost universally, they felt they were failing to meet their wife’s needs. Some already had an idea of what was the cause and were right, some were pretty far off base. But they knew that something was wrong. If you are in this boat, I empathize with you and I pray that I or someone else helps you and your wife. There are some things you should know.
The Art of the Thrust
Gentlemen, here is your time to shine. After you have successfully wooed your bride into bed (shower, kitchen, backseat, etc.) and completed the preliminaries, it is time to get to the act proper. This is the time that distinguishes the boys from the men. It is time to practice the art of the thrust.
Buy the Stinking Roses
How quickly can we burn through $7? Coffee, soda, snacks, beer, etc. many of us might spend $7 on our way to or from work without hardly thinking about it. Now if it’s a choice between feeding your kids and buying roses, then I’m not saying to neglect your kids. But if you have some discretionary funds, treat your spouse to something special every now and then. When you stop for that coffee, skip the snacks and buy a rose.
The Marriage Bed: Holy of Holies of the Family
When you look at your marriage bed, just remember that it is here that lives are conceived to give glory to God for all the rest of eternity and Our Lord went to His cross thinking and loving them. This thought alone should fill us with awe and reverence for this sacred space. If it is the altar, then it is also the cross. It is the cross upon which we sacrifice our pride, our selfishness, our lust, all of our sins and vices. We offer them to God through our spouse.
Making Out with Your Wife
When was the last time that you made out with your wife? Was it the last time that you made love? Was it the last time you had a fight and then could hardly make it to the bedroom in time for some hot makeup sex?
The Servant King: the Nature of a Husband
There is an ongoing debate in Catholic circles, especially Traditional Catholic circles, about the appropriate or ideal gender roles in the family. While that is an important topic and one that we will discuss in greater detail in future blog posts, I think that it is important to remember that being precedes action. So the roles of man and wife should flow as an authentic expression of the natures of man and wife.