The Art of the Thrust

Techniques 101 - Part 2

Gentlemen, here is your time to shine. After you have successfully wooed your bride into bed (shower, kitchen, backseat, etc.) and completed the preliminaries, it is time to get to the act proper. This is the time that distinguishes the boys from the men. It is time to practice the art of the thrust. 

But before we begin, we should acknowledge that there are a variety of factors at play. Some of them are in our control and some are not.

Despite the Hollywood narrative, length and girth are not the most important factors. A Scottish two-handed Claymore and a French rapier are vastly different swords; nonetheless, success in combat between the two depends more on their master’s skill than on their mass. There are techniques and styles proper to each that are entirely unsuited to the other. Fortunately, for our discussion, you have been issued only one sword and you have the rest of your marriage to master it. 

(Fun side note: the original Latin meaning of vagina is “sheath or scabbard.”)

So, let us focus on the things in our control: position/angle of penetration, depth, force, and tempo. Now, I have already written a recent article on positions, so I will not say more here, except that once in a position, you can and should make adjustments as needed. Sex should be more like dancing than like stamping steel in a mill.

Upon penetration, should you immediately begin thrusting? Probably not. She may need a moment to open herself up fully. But this isn’t wasted time. As she opens press yourself firmly into her. Let her feel your heat. Let her feel your length and girth filling her chamber. Savor the moment, enjoying her moist heat. When you are both ready, slide back 3-4 inches and then slowly, firmly thrust. The first several thrusts should be nice and slow followed by a firm press against her at the end.

The average length is about 6 inches. So most men can penetrate the full length of their shaft without problem; however, if you are very well endowed (8 or more inches) then you will need to be particularly careful not to bruise her cervix. If that has been a problem for you in the past, then you may want to try some shallow penetration positions. For average and less-endowed men, the problem will be withdrawing too far and popping out. This can lead to the embarrassing and painful situation of bruising your penis, her pelvis and/or penetrating the wrong hole. In general, you only need to withdraw about two-thirds of yourself (for average men: 3-4 inches) for sufficient stimulation. 

When it comes to force, great care and practice are necessary. Force is mostly felt at the end of the thrust. You don’t want your wife to feel like you are punching her in the vagina, nor do you want her to feel like you are trying to shadowbox with your pelvis. Shoot for firm pelvis-to-pelvis contact, not too hard, not too soft.

Quite possibly the hardest sex skill to master is the tempo. One of the most common mistakes that men make is equating speed with quality when it comes to thrusting tempo. Yes, faster will get you there quicker, but you risk leaving her in the dust. Women tend to prefer a slower, steady beat to the infamous jackrabbit. Remember that your wife’s arousal curve is much more gradual than yours. Try maintaining a slow, steady, firm pace as you continue thrusting. This will help slow your arousal curve and help you to last longer.

As you approach climax, pick up the pace. You still want to avoid the jackrabbit, which you can do by trying to maintain the same force in your followthrough as you had at slower speeds. A common problem at this point is that as men feel the orgasm hit, they tend to stop thrusting. It may be difficult but PUSH THROUGH IT. With practice, it will get easier. This will do two things. One, it will give you stronger orgasms. Two, it will help your wife to orgasm or finish her orgasm. For many women, the sensation of their husbands ejaculating inside them is incredibly erotic and can push them to orgasm. But if you stop thrusting right as she is reaching climax, then you can interrupt her climb. Further, women’s orgasms tend to last longer than men’s, so even if she is already in orgasm, continuing to thrust will help her to have a great one. 

Practice makes perfect, so make sure that you are practicing on a regular basis to master this skill. Cheers!