Polyorgasmy: How Many Orgasms Are Enough?
Despite the Hollywood buzz about women having multiple orgasms during the same sexual encounter and the growing body of research on the subject, much about the phenomenon is still unknown. Research however indicates that there are about as many women (~14%) who can orgasm multiple times as there are women who never orgasm. Now this is important because of how polyorgasmic (able to have multiple orgasms) women reach sexual satisfaction.
Faking It or How to Never Orgasm
Research indicates that close to 70% of women have faked orgasms. This can have a variety of damaging effects on relationships.
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Hard Truths for Men About Women's Experience of Sex
All the men who have come to men for coaching have done so for the same reason: there is something wrong with their sex life. Almost universally, they felt they were failing to meet their wife’s needs. Some already had an idea of what was the cause and were right, some were pretty far off base. But they knew that something was wrong. If you are in this boat, I empathize with you and I pray that I or someone else helps you and your wife. There are some things you should know.
Your Catholic Sexologist
“The Board has reviewed your status as an Apprentice in Sexology and feels that based on your experience, you deserve to be a full Certified Sexologist…I and a few other Board members have found that your website at https://www.catholicintimacy.com/ to be refreshing and a rarity in today’s changing world…Keep up with the good work you and your wife provide from the Catholic perspective.”
Christopher Smith, Ph.D., LMFT, ABS
ABS Board Chair President
How Important is a Wife's Sexual Satisfaction?
The response should be obvious, but based on the statements of some online personalities, I think that it bears discussing.
The Art of the Thrust
Gentlemen, here is your time to shine. After you have successfully wooed your bride into bed (shower, kitchen, backseat, etc.) and completed the preliminaries, it is time to get to the act proper. This is the time that distinguishes the boys from the men. It is time to practice the art of the thrust.
Porn Sex vs. Marital Intercourse
For anyone who has seen pornography and marital intercourse, this should be pretty obvious: porn sex is nothing like marital intercourse. Unfortunately, pornography is everywhere these days and it is practically impossible to make it to adulthood without seeing some of it. Thus, I feel that it is necessary to bring this up for those who may be confused, especially those young men and women who are hoping to be married one day. Feel free to share this article with them.
Bad Sex: How to Stop Having It
So the majority of my clients come to me with one goal in mind: stop having bad sex. Now what makes sex bad looks different for each couple, but by and large the number one reason is that the wife just doesn’t enjoy it. I can help with that. There is no good reason to settle for bad sex.
Memorial Day Letter Home
Fort Somewhere
My Dearest Love, I love you so much. Happy Memorial Day. As always, we started the day at zero dark thirty with the annual Murphy run. After hygiene, they spoiled us with a hot meal and coffee. Later today we will take part in a parade and some ceremonies around post. I’m sure that at some point we will listen to a message from the commander. This evening, we may get lucky and have some BBQ. No beer, of course, but that’s normal here….
Catholic Teaching on the Female Orgasm
Despite mankind’s advances in medicine and research, the female orgasm remains quite a mystery both academically and practically. Some consider them as a pleasant, although unnecessary, side effect of sex, ignoring their importance in female sexual satisfaction and overall marital happiness (Dienberg et al., 2023). So what does the Church say about women’s orgasms?
Best Basic Sex Positions
One of the most common areas that I address with new sex coaching clients is positions. Not all positions work for all clients. For example, I have had a client with partial paralysis who could only use one position, so in their case I just taught them how to use it more effectively. But most of my clients benefit from having 2-4 go-to positions. Here are some of the best ones.
New Course and Articles
Over the past few weeks, I have finally gotten around to finishing a slew of articles. For a teaser, the image above is from one of those articles. We are in the process of overhauling our marketing strategies, so we may not be posting all of these articles on our social media accounts. If you want to keep up with these articles then please subscribe to our mailing list. Here are some of the upcoming article titles…
Can Catholics Have Sex While Pregnant?
In general, yes, it is morally permissible for Catholics to have sex while the wife is pregnant. There are, however, exceptions and certain considerations that have to be made.
Exploring Erogenous Zones
An erogenous zone (EZ) refers to an area of the human body that, when stimulated, can elicit sexual arousal and pleasure. These zones comprise about 24% of the human body. Many of these zones have no anatomical link to the genitals, and sometimes orgasm can even be achieved through stimulation of these extra-genital erogenous zones. Although generally the same for both men and women, EZs can vary from person to person in terms of sensitivity and preferred methods of stimulation. Below are a few examples with tips for stimulating them.
Extended Availability for Catholic Marriage and Intimacy Coaching
We're thrilled to announce that our Catholic marriage and intimacy coaching services, led by James Walther, are now available with extended hours to better serve our clients! We're implementing these extended hours as a trial run until at least March 15, 2024. Whether you're a busy professional or a parent with limited free time, we aim to accommodate your schedule.
Masturbation in Marriage
Masturbation is per se (i.e., in and of itself) gravely sinful. This means that it is always sinful, including in marriage. Since we started Catholic Intimacy, many people have contacted me to ask whether one or another act was masturbatory or if masturbation would be allowed in x, y, or z situations. So, hopefully, if you are here with a question like that, this article will clarify things.
What Do I Have to Offer?
Here’s the big question: what do you have to offer? In other words, why should anyone want to commit themselves to you exclusively for life? That’s a million-dollar question.
Everyone has a type, i.e., certain characteristics that they find attractive. We all know (or knew) what characteristics we are (were) looking for in our spouse. We tend to have pretty lofty ideals. But let’s flip that around. If our future spouse is as magnificent as we imagine, then should we not expect that they too have high standards for who they want to be with? Do we meet the criteria of someone that meets our criteria?
Getting Frisky: Incomplete Sexual Acts
From a Reader: Please help us in clarifying a long standing confusion. Is it sinful for spouses to orally and manually stimulate each other’s genitals while abstaining from full marital union?
Expanding Our Horizons: Introducing Online Catholic Intimacy Coaching
In light of these evolving needs, we're excited to share with you and get your feedback on a project – the introduction of online Catholic Intimacy Coaching.
First and foremost, it's important to clarify that intimacy coaching is a form of personal coaching or counseling that focuses on helping individuals or couples improve their emotional, physical, and psychological intimacy in relationships.